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Trying to bypass the wounds involved in something as painful as infertility by speaking merely to the mind can turn out to be counter-productive, especially when it comes to explaining the Church's teachings on artificial reproductive technologies. One first needs to connect on the level of the heart in an authentic way to bring some relief and initiate the healing-process before addressing the unethical nature of in vitro fertilization, for example. In this article, I therefore, explore what it means to speak the language of the heart and, briefly, what characterizes the affective sphere. It is key to meet people where they are rather than try to leverage them to where one thinks they ought to be. Compassion, that is, suffering with the other, is essential to ease their pain. Paradoxically, people need to mourn in order to get to a better place, but often do not know how to do it. 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